5 Stoic Lessons on Happiness I Wish I Knew Sooner

I don’t have a time machine, but by sharing these lessons with you, I hope I can help you to save time

Darius Foroux
6 min readJun 16, 2023

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I started blogging in 2015, at 28 years old. It was the start of my writing career, and I had just moved back in with my parents in The Netherlands to save money.

Before that, I used to work for an IT research firm in London. I also started various businesses, including a laundry equipment service company with my father, which is still doing well today.

But no matter what career path I chose, it didn’t feel right. My heart wasn’t in those things.

And by 2015, I was really confused about what direction I wanted to take my life. That’s when I went on an epic learning spree and within two years, I was sure about what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

Stoicism inspired me a lot and taught me many life lessons. Now, I learned all these important things when was 30, but sometimes I think, “What if I knew these things at 20?”

I don’t have a time machine, but by sharing these lessons with you, I hope I can help you to save time.

Here are the 5 things I wish I had known before I turned 30.

1. The need to please others is stronger than you think or admit

Anyone who uses social media, even just for work, will always face the need to chase after likes, retweets, and comments.

There’s an invisible force inside us that pushes us to do things just for the purpose of showing it to others.

Marcus Aurelius puts it best:

“We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”

The truth is we’re always beholden to other people: Employees need rapport with their employers (and vice versa), businesses to their customers, creators to their fans.

We do need to be considerate, but we don’t need to be people pleasers.

The key difference is boundaries: Decide what your non-negotiables are. And…

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Darius Foroux

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