“You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fucking khakis.”
That’s one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite books: Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk.
I’ve read Fight Club probably five or six times. But when I reread it again recently, that line really hit me. Are you wasting your life if you try to chase all those things?
In the midst of our pursuit of whatever we’re after, it’s easy to get so distracted that we lose sight of what matters — and before we know it, we waste our time chasing the wrong things.
It’s fine to set goals and pursue things in life. However, you don’t need whatever you’re pursuing to live a meaningful life. Here’s why.
You Are Not Your Bucket List
Don’t trick yourself into believing you have to do crazy shit just make it count. It’s all useless if you keep going from one thing to the other so that you can cross things off your list, and can talk about it at parties.
We buy things, we party, we jump off cliffs, we go on holidays, we move to different cities, we switch jobs — but nothing changes inwardly after we’ve done those things.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a bucket list. But we should realize that we can live a meaningful life without one. Don’t put pressure on yourself just to do things. Who cares? Your life is not a Nike slogan.
You can live with very little and be happy. With that realization, you can go and do the things that you truly want and not just because some article says:10 Things You Should Do Before You Die.
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
– Marcus Aurelius
You Are Not Your Social Status
College degree, job title, number of friends and followers, are all means to measure ourselves. Somehow, we need to determine where we stand in society.