The Dark Art of Pretending You Are Fine

Consistency is more important to me than how much progress I make

Several years ago, I landed on a documentary on TV. I can’t recall much about it, but I remember an important scene.

The documentary was about hidden ailments that people often walk around with for years. The scene I’m referring to featured a man in his sixties, who talked about how he walked around with a violent headache for five or six years.

His wife told him to get checked but he always said, “It’s fine. No one ever died from a headache.” (Depending on the headache, it could be a symptom of serious illnesses). Eventually, the headaches became worse and he gave in to his wife’s advice.

The guy had a brain tumor. “Turns out things weren’t fine at all. I learned my lesson,” he said. And he almost paid the price with his life. In the documentary, they showed how lucky he was to survive.

He had about the same chance of survival as winning the lottery. People who go through an experience like that usually don’t live long enough to talk about it.

Stubbornness and paranoia

I know a lot of people who are stubborn like that. I used to brush off everything like that as well. “Oh, I’m fine!” That’s the…