You’re Only as Good as Your Benchmark

4 steps to knowing yourself better

Darius Foroux
3 min readJun 21, 2024


Most people tend to either overestimate or underestimate themselves. We hardly ever have a real picture of our abilities.

Think about it: How often have you seen someone (or even yourself) claim to be good or bad at one thing, only to find that their result shows otherwise?

For example, you may think you’re a terrible public speaker, but when you actually give a presentation, people compliment you on your confidence and delivery. Or maybe you believe you’re an amazing cook, but your friends think it’s not that great.

Our personal benchmark is often different from how others perceive us. And this can have both positive and negative effects on our lives.

On the one hand, it’s important to set high standards for ourselves and continuously push ourselves to improve. On the other hand, we can also be too hard on ourselves and limit our own potential because our benchmark is based on inaccurate perceptions.

Creating your true personal benchmark

Knowing what you’re good at is important in succeeding at anything. As the management expert, Peter Drucker, said:

“One cannot build performance on weaknesses, let…



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